Can't stop appointment reminders

Hello again. Outlook Xp in a networked environment. I
have a manager who gives "editor" rights to his
secretary for his calendar. The manager does not want to
see appointment reminders in Outlook. I checked the
manager's machine and he has turned off reminders. I
checked the secretary's machine and she has reminders
turned on. When the secretary makes calendar appointments
on his calendar from her own workstation the reminders
show up on the managers calendar. The only way I can see
to prevent the manager from seeing the reminders is to

Option 1 - have the secretary uncheck the reminder in
every calendar event or
Option 2 - go tools options and uncheck the reminder
feature. If we go with option 2 that means by default
the secretary will not be reminded on her own
appointments. Is there a way around this without having
to use option 1 or 2?